Cocteau 101
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Cocteau 101 on Oct 27, 2008 1:37:47 GMT 1, Yesterday (Saturday) around 4.45pm we were involved in a a serious car accident literally a few minutes from our house. A car spun out of control at speed and collided head on with our car and literally vaulted the car. I don't remember too much other than the massive impact, and what must of been a few seconds later my 10 year old daughter screaming for her mummy and looking around to see my wife not moving next to me. I won't tell you the feeling I had and the thoughts that went through my mind at that point. A few seconds later we were all thankfully out of the car and standing surrounded by debris, people, ambulances, fire engines etc. The other guy had to be cut out of his car. A very kind couple took my wife who was in shock, crying and trembling and my daughter into their house. while i just stood there dazed.
We went to hospital and were checked over and today thankfully and miraculously save for a few bruises, aches and pains we are ok. The psychological side I'm not sure and that is why I ask for your patience in writing this. For me and I have been involved in acrash before it has been a surreal 24 hours. I've felt anger, dread, disillusionment, thankfulness, nothingness a whole range of emotions. Late last night I came on here probably out of habit just for 5 minutes and realised that some things are important like art but some things transcend importance and I'm sure we all know that. Everyone of us could have been killed in that car in literally seconds leaving a 15 year old boy on his own.
I aplogise if this sounds dramatic and maybe am being selfish for just trying to get it down in some way and out of my system. I also thought of some of the people I have met on here and although those meetings have been short and centred around something we all enjoy, have meant something to me over the last few years. At the moment this has made me realise just how much those that are closest to us mean the most and how much can be taken for granted.
Again, I apologise for rambling on.
With best wishes.
C
Yesterday (Saturday) around 4.45pm we were involved in a a serious car accident literally a few minutes from our house. A car spun out of control at speed and collided head on with our car and literally vaulted the car. I don't remember too much other than the massive impact, and what must of been a few seconds later my 10 year old daughter screaming for her mummy and looking around to see my wife not moving next to me. I won't tell you the feeling I had and the thoughts that went through my mind at that point. A few seconds later we were all thankfully out of the car and standing surrounded by debris, people, ambulances, fire engines etc. The other guy had to be cut out of his car. A very kind couple took my wife who was in shock, crying and trembling and my daughter into their house. while i just stood there dazed.
We went to hospital and were checked over and today thankfully and miraculously save for a few bruises, aches and pains we are ok. The psychological side I'm not sure and that is why I ask for your patience in writing this. For me and I have been involved in acrash before it has been a surreal 24 hours. I've felt anger, dread, disillusionment, thankfulness, nothingness a whole range of emotions. Late last night I came on here probably out of habit just for 5 minutes and realised that some things are important like art but some things transcend importance and I'm sure we all know that. Everyone of us could have been killed in that car in literally seconds leaving a 15 year old boy on his own.
I aplogise if this sounds dramatic and maybe am being selfish for just trying to get it down in some way and out of my system. I also thought of some of the people I have met on here and although those meetings have been short and centred around something we all enjoy, have meant something to me over the last few years. At the moment this has made me realise just how much those that are closest to us mean the most and how much can be taken for granted.
Again, I apologise for rambling on.
With best wishes.
C
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A Very Sobering Experience, by bullet on Oct 27, 2008 1:48:45 GMT 1, dont know what to say mate, i have differences with people on here but reading that shuts me up somewhat.
glad your all ok. i still remember the day when i was 11 and at my mates house for new years, the first time away from my folks. They drove to a friends house for a dinner party in the middle of nowhere. The left just after midnight and on the way back were involved in an incident with black ice, spun the car and crashed side on into an incoming car.
my mum has always been afraid of sitting in the front of the car, so was in the back. But the front seat was where i normally sat. Had i been there and not decided at the last minute not to go to the dinner but play at my mates, i would not be here. Im still a bit haunted by that. My parents were ok after a few knocks and a fracture though.
dont know what to say mate, i have differences with people on here but reading that shuts me up somewhat.
glad your all ok. i still remember the day when i was 11 and at my mates house for new years, the first time away from my folks. They drove to a friends house for a dinner party in the middle of nowhere. The left just after midnight and on the way back were involved in an incident with black ice, spun the car and crashed side on into an incoming car.
my mum has always been afraid of sitting in the front of the car, so was in the back. But the front seat was where i normally sat. Had i been there and not decided at the last minute not to go to the dinner but play at my mates, i would not be here. Im still a bit haunted by that. My parents were ok after a few knocks and a fracture though.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by They call me Stephen on Oct 27, 2008 1:55:29 GMT 1, Glad you're ok Cocteau....can't imagine what you've gone through with it. Glad the family are all ok, must have been a terrifying/daunting experience!
Glad you're ok Cocteau....can't imagine what you've gone through with it. Glad the family are all ok, must have been a terrifying/daunting experience!
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Heavyconsumer
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Heavyconsumer on Oct 27, 2008 1:58:37 GMT 1, Great news that your family is safe Cocteau. I've been lucky enough to walk away from an ugly accident too and can relate well to the unnerving emotional responses that follow. I trust you and your family will get through this period of reaction promptly and with no long-term ill-effects.
Great news that your family is safe Cocteau. I've been lucky enough to walk away from an ugly accident too and can relate well to the unnerving emotional responses that follow. I trust you and your family will get through this period of reaction promptly and with no long-term ill-effects.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by wiz on Oct 27, 2008 2:07:24 GMT 1, Crikey !, i am so very glad you and the family were all allright physically, and as you mention the trauma takes a while to sink in and get over or deal with. Most things we worry about seem stupid at times like that. Im really glad you were all ok. Knowing whats really important to us all is a good lesson we all need now and again its a shame it takes these kind of events for us to think about it
Crikey !, i am so very glad you and the family were all allright physically, and as you mention the trauma takes a while to sink in and get over or deal with. Most things we worry about seem stupid at times like that. Im really glad you were all ok. Knowing whats really important to us all is a good lesson we all need now and again its a shame it takes these kind of events for us to think about it
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A Very Sobering Experience, by arcam on Oct 27, 2008 4:22:57 GMT 1, I'm glad to hear you and your family are ok cocteau101. It sounds like a horrendous accident. I wish you all the best.
I'm glad to hear you and your family are ok cocteau101. It sounds like a horrendous accident. I wish you all the best.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by pfffffffffft on Oct 27, 2008 4:29:11 GMT 1, Glad you and your family are OK cocteau!
Glad you and your family are OK cocteau!
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A Very Sobering Experience, by stickee on Oct 27, 2008 4:38:42 GMT 1, Hey cocteau,
Good to hear you all got out ok from that mess.
I myself have had a few close scrapes and they still pop up in my mind to this day. Like you said it is a real eye opener to what is important in life, and that is well being and the people that surround us.
Chin up dude and thank your luckys that we are all here to fight another day
Peace
Hey cocteau,
Good to hear you all got out ok from that mess.
I myself have had a few close scrapes and they still pop up in my mind to this day. Like you said it is a real eye opener to what is important in life, and that is well being and the people that surround us.
Chin up dude and thank your luckys that we are all here to fight another day
Peace
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A Very Sobering Experience, by dotdot on Oct 27, 2008 7:42:29 GMT 1,
what a start to my day/week.. - reading of your extremely shocking story.
I wish you all the best in the coming days / weeks mate ...
rgds
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what a start to my day/week.. - reading of your extremely shocking story.
I wish you all the best in the coming days / weeks mate ...
rgds
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hlarmy
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A Very Sobering Experience, by hlarmy on Oct 27, 2008 8:34:33 GMT 1, A scary experience Cocteau, thank god you all got out with your lives - I hope the other chap is ok and there isn't too much mental scarring 
A scary experience Cocteau, thank god you all got out with your lives - I hope the other chap is ok and there isn't too much mental scarring |
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A Very Sobering Experience, by jellya on Oct 27, 2008 8:43:18 GMT 1, I'm glad you and yours are OK Cocteau. Take it easy fella.
I'm glad you and yours are OK Cocteau. Take it easy fella.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Guy Denning on Oct 27, 2008 8:48:39 GMT 1, You're right - it puts all this nonsense into perspective. Take the family out for a rainy day picnic and just laugh like loons as the world passes by. Glad you're all safe boss.
You're right - it puts all this nonsense into perspective. Take the family out for a rainy day picnic and just laugh like loons as the world passes by. Glad you're all safe boss.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by crazyarsemother on Oct 27, 2008 8:52:46 GMT 1, Hope you all get the space and support to get over this shock dude. Sounds awful. Glad none of you are hurt.
Hope you all get the space and support to get over this shock dude. Sounds awful. Glad none of you are hurt.
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loucastel
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A Very Sobering Experience, by loucastel on Oct 27, 2008 9:49:28 GMT 1, Glad you and the family are physicaly unhurt Cocteau, sounds like a very sobering experience, I think situations like that do bring home to you the importance of "life"and what other people mean to you, too many people take this cyber life far to seriously at times, and seem to forget that there is a lot more to it than this, stay well.
Glad you and the family are physicaly unhurt Cocteau, sounds like a very sobering experience, I think situations like that do bring home to you the importance of "life"and what other people mean to you, too many people take this cyber life far to seriously at times, and seem to forget that there is a lot more to it than this, stay well.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by mcnuts on Oct 27, 2008 9:56:08 GMT 1, Glad you and the family are physicaly unhurt Cocteau, sounds like a very sobering experience, I think situations like that do bring home to you the importance of "life"and what other people mean to you, too many people take this cyber life far to seriously at times, and seem to forget that there is a lot more to it than this, stay well.
me agreeing with loucastel? seems that way. glad you and your family are ok. Wtf was the other guy doing going so fast. Crazy.
Glad you and the family are physicaly unhurt Cocteau, sounds like a very sobering experience, I think situations like that do bring home to you the importance of "life"and what other people mean to you, too many people take this cyber life far to seriously at times, and seem to forget that there is a lot more to it than this, stay well. me agreeing with loucastel? seems that way. glad you and your family are ok. Wtf was the other guy doing going so fast. Crazy. |
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A Very Sobering Experience, by master on Oct 27, 2008 10:04:12 GMT 1, Horrible experience C, wishing you and your family all the best!!!
Horrible experience C, wishing you and your family all the best!!!
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Karl Read on Oct 27, 2008 10:06:44 GMT 1, I too was recently in a car accident, yours sounds a bit more distressing but i know the feeling, lots of emotions! Glad your all ok and it really does make you realise what is important in life!
I too was recently in a car accident, yours sounds a bit more distressing but i know the feeling, lots of emotions! Glad your all ok and it really does make you realise what is important in life!
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A Very Sobering Experience, by mammal2 on Oct 27, 2008 10:40:38 GMT 1, shit! hope your cool!
shit! hope your cool!
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A Very Sobering Experience, by spirit on Oct 27, 2008 10:58:16 GMT 1, Really sorry to hear about this C and glad you and the family are all OK. My wife lost her sister 15 years ago in a car crash (she was in the car too) and she is never comfortable being in a car even now. Events like this certainly put everything else in perspective and make you realise just how fragile life is.
Given our society's risk averse attitude, and the general trend of banning things which are perceived as dangerous, I am always a little surprised that there is not a stronger movement aimed at banning cars altogether - there's very few (non-military) things in this world as common and as dangerous as fast moving vehicles.
Really sorry to hear about this C and glad you and the family are all OK. My wife lost her sister 15 years ago in a car crash (she was in the car too) and she is never comfortable being in a car even now. Events like this certainly put everything else in perspective and make you realise just how fragile life is.
Given our society's risk averse attitude, and the general trend of banning things which are perceived as dangerous, I am always a little surprised that there is not a stronger movement aimed at banning cars altogether - there's very few (non-military) things in this world as common and as dangerous as fast moving vehicles.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by romanywg on Oct 27, 2008 11:28:30 GMT 1, Puts life into perspective somewhat. Glad you're still with us mate.
Puts life into perspective somewhat. Glad you're still with us mate.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Guest on Oct 27, 2008 11:31:33 GMT 1, Im glad that you and your family are o.k mate, it must have been a vary scary moment.
Im glad that you and your family are o.k mate, it must have been a vary scary moment.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by graeme501 on Oct 27, 2008 11:35:01 GMT 1, yeah glad 2 hear everybody is ok, must have been a scary time
yeah glad 2 hear everybody is ok, must have been a scary time
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Harveyn on Oct 27, 2008 11:47:08 GMT 1, Hi Cocteau glad to here you and your family are okay. Events like this often put things into perspective and make previous concerns appear completely insignificant. In a strange way you can use this terrible shock to your advantage in aligning and understanding whats important in life and focusing on the truly meaningful things. Good luck to you and your family.
Hi Cocteau glad to here you and your family are okay. Events like this often put things into perspective and make previous concerns appear completely insignificant. In a strange way you can use this terrible shock to your advantage in aligning and understanding whats important in life and focusing on the truly meaningful things. Good luck to you and your family.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Deleted on Oct 27, 2008 11:47:31 GMT 1,
These things tend to leave you feeling vulnerable and very fragile.
I don't think there is a right or wrong way to react, so never question yourself in terms of how you are feeling or how you deal with them. If posting on a forum which is one of your touchstones helps, then do it. You know that this bunch will pull together at times like this.
Give the kids a big hug and take care
Mike
These things tend to leave you feeling vulnerable and very fragile.
I don't think there is a right or wrong way to react, so never question yourself in terms of how you are feeling or how you deal with them. If posting on a forum which is one of your touchstones helps, then do it. You know that this bunch will pull together at times like this.
Give the kids a big hug and take care
Mike
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A Very Sobering Experience, by themightyreds on Oct 27, 2008 11:49:28 GMT 1, always terrible to hear peoples accounts of accidents...
very glad you and your family are ok C.
& don't apologise for rambling - if it helps then go right ahead mate.
always terrible to hear peoples accounts of accidents...
very glad you and your family are ok C.
& don't apologise for rambling - if it helps then go right ahead mate.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by funster on Oct 27, 2008 11:52:25 GMT 1, Hey C, glad you're ok. A shivver went down my spine reading your story, too close for comfort. Lucky the angels were looking over you on Saturday
Hey C, glad you're ok. A shivver went down my spine reading your story, too close for comfort. Lucky the angels were looking over you on Saturday |
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Daniel Silk on Oct 27, 2008 12:06:53 GMT 1, Glad to hear you are all ok Cocteau. Your all bound to be shook up for some time after an experience like that, but good can come out of things like this. As you were saying it can make you view life in a different way, and get you enjoying things more that you might have taken for granted in the past.
My Girlfriend had a close call last month when a motorbike hit her car near head on, she was lucky that the bike was halted by the front of the car and did not flip up onto the bonnet and into the windscreen. Both her and the motorcyclist are safe and sound, but her confidence driving has been hit a bit.
Glad to hear you are all ok Cocteau. Your all bound to be shook up for some time after an experience like that, but good can come out of things like this. As you were saying it can make you view life in a different way, and get you enjoying things more that you might have taken for granted in the past.
My Girlfriend had a close call last month when a motorbike hit her car near head on, she was lucky that the bike was halted by the front of the car and did not flip up onto the bonnet and into the windscreen. Both her and the motorcyclist are safe and sound, but her confidence driving has been hit a bit.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by leeoman on Oct 27, 2008 12:07:08 GMT 1, Just read the tread, and was just relieved to hear you and your family are ok, your are right in saying its a wake up call you just never know whats round the corner, hope you and your family recover quickly from the shock. it's times like these you realize just what you have.
Just read the tread, and was just relieved to hear you and your family are ok, your are right in saying its a wake up call you just never know whats round the corner, hope you and your family recover quickly from the shock. it's times like these you realize just what you have.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by redfred on Oct 27, 2008 12:08:30 GMT 1, Good to hear everyone is physically unhurt but you will find it will take a long time for you all to overcome the mental trauma, been through it myself, but with time and patience you will all come through it even stronger, good luck.
Good to hear everyone is physically unhurt but you will find it will take a long time for you all to overcome the mental trauma, been through it myself, but with time and patience you will all come through it even stronger, good luck.
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A Very Sobering Experience, by Michael Jacob on Oct 27, 2008 12:45:15 GMT 1, Cocteau
Im so glad to hear you and your family are alright. Just make sure to spend some time with your wife the next few times she's in the car. It happened to me a long time ago, and I was afraid to be in a car for months. Every time a car approached me, it freaked me out. Just make sure she's ok. You'll be in my prayers.
Cocteau
Im so glad to hear you and your family are alright. Just make sure to spend some time with your wife the next few times she's in the car. It happened to me a long time ago, and I was afraid to be in a car for months. Every time a car approached me, it freaked me out. Just make sure she's ok. You'll be in my prayers.
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